Hello! I have a question about kimono and juban! I'm hoping to wear kimono for a japanese festival in my area, but my juban has sleeves that are almost 20 cm shorter than the kimono I want to wear. I would try to let out the seam in the juban, but there is not enough fabric to do so. Would it be inappropriate to wear it the way it is?
This is a big pain that comes up often when buying vintage kimono, mostly because many old ones were custom made and can vary widely in the sleeve length and width for no apparent reason. :/ The ideal solution is to be able to buy (or quickly make??) a juban with appropriately long sleeves, but this isn’t always possible.
From what I understand, it’s a minor faux pas to have the sleeves too short inside the kimono…of course if they were too long, you could fold or pin them up somewhere.
If you can’t exchange kimono or find a longer juban, I can’t think of any other solution offhand other than somehow making new juban sleeves (I can’t do this myself, so I am not exactly recommending it).
You may have to bite the bullet on this one and wear short juban sleeves, and try not to let anyone take a photo of the back of your sleeves. XD
Hiiii, I'd like to ask you something about kimono. I know everyone in my family keep telling me a married woman cannot wear a long sleeve kimono. But i love long sleeve kimono and I'd like to keep wearing it for a certain age even if I am married. I saw some married woman wearing long sleeve, not furisode. And I'd like to know if theres a kimono for it or they just use kimono. Thank you
It seems like in modern times, these kimono rules have been relaxed, as fewer and fewer people are wearing kimono at all. These days kimono are no longer “ki-mono” (wearing item, i.e. clothes!) but more of a specific fashion.
Since kimono is becoming more of a fashion statement than an everyday item, the rules are also sliding toward those of fashion. These days, the people who wear kimono every day are people somewhat outside the everyday grind: kimono instructors, artists, actors, and so on.
When a garment becomes simply art or fashion, I think you can wear it whenever you feel it’s appropriate for your situation.
In the case of furisode, I know there are quite a few women who are rebelling against the “furisode is only for coming-of-age ceremony” rule and wearing it far past their 20th birthday, of course on TV on the “Red-And-White-Show” for New Year’s Eve you can see many singers and entertainers wearing kimono who are middle-aged ladies!
There are some medium-length sleeve kimono sometimes in used kimono shops, which appear to be furisode that had the sleeves half cut. They are longer than a normal-sleeve kimono, 中振袖. I have seen chuu-furisode with sleeves that fall just at the hip or just under, this one is a little long:
So your family is absolutely correct that traditionally, married women, or women over 25 years old, did not wear furisode. However, this was a rule from a time when coming-of-age ceremony was around 14 to 16 years old, when girls were being married in their teenage years. (Originally, the coming-of-age ceremony was performed when a girl was 11-12 years old and thus ‘eligible for marriage’).
These days, since many women are married in their late 20’s and 30’s, women’s age of youth is much much longer than simply age 25! If you have a festive or formal situation, especially New Year’s, it should be fine to wear a chuu-furisode. If attending a wedding, it’s just important not to overshadow the bride.
This page explains it in Japanese, mostly concerning wedding etiquette:
What is the general opinion on kimono coordinations with strong contrast? For example, would it be strange to see a light kimono with a dark obi, and other accessories?
Nope, that’s very common for informal coordinations. It seems that less contrast is for more formal situations or more elderly people, and high contrast is festive, youthful and/or casual. Yukata often play with the idea of a very light kimono with a very dark obi.
Hello, I'm a kimono enthusiast who is going to be stationed in Yokosuka by the end of the year. Do you have any advice for the mixed asian traveler/military member who wants to make a polite impression on the locals while shopping for kimono? I'm really nervous about coming off as offensive or totally ignorant.
I don’t know about the climate of Yokosuka, but being offensive is probably not something you have to worry about. :3 Kimono shop owners are generally friendly and happy to see customers of any variety.
Depending on what you’re shopping for, you can ask about what seasonality of motif to choose for Fall, etc., or whether a 2-piece juban is better than a naga-juban, You can ask for a specific color of geta or obiage, or their opinion on whether to use folded towels on your shoulder or waist for the proper padding. This kind of question shows you know what you’re talking about. :)
They always LOVE if you go shopping for kimono while wearing kimono, too, and usually the shop grandmas will run over and adjust your collar and obi and make sure you’re all properly tucked in!
If you have any photos of yourself in kimono, I’d show them to the staff (if you can’t go in kimono directly), this helps establish your credibility and you immediately become their buddy. XD
Another conversational trick that usually goes well is to show a photo of some obi style you want to try but can’t figure out, and ask if they have any tips for tying it. This works quite well for quiet or family owned shops. In large, busy shops where you don’t want to take up their time, I sometimes ask to see a specific motif or item, like obi-dome, or asa-no-ha motif, and explain I want it for winter casual wear or something.
It’s not rude to just wander around the store and look at things, though many places don’t want you to take photos.
Hello there! I just wanted to let you know the source of the rainbow furisode gyaru girl you posted. :) I believe the model’s name is Rina Sakurai (aka Sakurina), a famous Gyaru who starred in “GIRL’S LIFE” and frequently poses for AGEHA, a magazine that often features furisode in crazy gyaru styles.
i recently purchased this nagoya-style obi, but i’d love to hear your take on it. it’s about twelve inches wide and fourteen feet long. the backing is a sturdy black cotton (i think) and everything else is woven in various shades of gold metallic thread. it’s very heavy! there are a bunch of motifs within the circles, namely cranes and tortoise shells and paulownia flowers against a subtle goldtone check pattern. the seller estimates it was made in the 1950s.
is this a type of formal wedding obi? what sort of tie would be appropriate for it? what colors/patterns would go best with something this intense? the picture doesn’t really show it, but it glimmers really brightly and i have no idea how pair it other than flat black.
Mod 2: Based on tiny-image and not able to see the whole thing, I’d say it is NOT a wedding appropriate Obi—anymore. It sounds based on the description, that Grandma probably got hold of it and converted it into a less formal version.
Normally these days, for formal events you would wear a Fukuro obi or a Maru obi.
All of this is qualified to “UNLESS you can still tie a nijudaiko (The formal version of a taiko knot) with it”, and then it is probably okay to wear to fancier events. So basically answering your question… You can wear it to a wedding with an appropriate wedding-level Kimono if you can still tie Nijudaiko or something else appropriately formal.